For many Christmas is not the joyful holiday that it is for others. Christmas is a reminder of past traumatic events, loss of loved ones, loss of family gatherings or loss of the sense of inclusion.
If Christmas is a trauma trigger, causing you grief, depression or melancholy try these little steps to help you get through the holidays:
Stay Grounded
Keeping your grounding is key when upsets, sadness or depression rises up within. Here are some grounding tips and tricks.
Visualize roots running down your spine, down your legs, out your feet and running deep into the earth.
Grounding Meditations
Stand on the bare earth without shoes on. In the winter this can be tricky and cold. So an alternative for the winter is to use a grounding mat.
Crystals For Grounding
Arfvedsonite
Aragonite
Bloodstone
Clear Calcite
Carnelian
Charoite
Dragon's Blood Jasper
Fluorite
Red Garnet
Hematite
Red Jasper
Jet
Labradorite
Malachite
Moldavite
Obsidian
Onyx
Rutilated Quartz
Smoky Quartz
Rhodonite
Seraphinite
Snowflake Obsidian
Tektite
Tiger's Eye
Black Tourmaline
Blue Tourmaline
Dark Blue Tourmaline
Epsom Salt Baths for clearing, cleansing and grounding
Walking in Nature
Drinking Lots of Water
2. Keep Your Meridians Running In The Right Direction
There are several ways to do this; however the simplest and fastest way is to do energy exercises. When your meridians are running the wrong way, you feel tired, depressed and lacking passion for life. Here are a few of my favorite tools you can try:
Donna Eden's Daily Energy Routine
Yoga - Stretching and elongating opens up the energy flow
Music Therapy - Play music that makes you happy
TaiChi Qigong
3. Relaxing, Releasing Meditations with Positive Affirmations:
This one is for releasing stress, tension and anxiety
This one is for releasing anger and upset:
This one is to help you relax before bed:
4. Healing Time
Give yourself permission to be sad. Work through the upset. It will only hurt for a short period of time, until you release and let go of the upset. Healing is hard and takes time.
Allow yourself to just be
Don't judge or criticize yourself
Do things that show yourself "self love"
Do things that raise your joyfulness (music, being with friends, finding gratitude in the life around you, go for a walk)
If you have healers near by, look into having a Reiki session to help you unlock, process and release the upset. This will help you feel lighter, work through any grief or sadness you are experiencing and it will help you manage your emotions better.
Talk to friends or family about your feelings. They too might be feeling the same way. You may find comfort in sharing with others who feel the same way.
Spend time with people who truly love you, appreciate all of your gifts and support you in times of trouble. These people are your "tribe" the ones that understand and love you.
Christmas and the Holidays are tough times for a lot of us. Do what you can to stay centered, grounded and keep letting the upset flow through you. Do not try to suppress or stop it, that will only make the suffering worse. Think of yourself like a hydro pole. The lines carry your emotions. When those emotional upsets occur, let the emotions run through the lines, through you and out the other side. It will only be hard for a short period of time, then it will subside.
Sending you all love and light during this difficult time of year. May your heart find love and gratitude in this season. Hold onto the good. Hold onto the love. Keep moving forward through the upset and you will live to come out the other side, strong and better for having gone through it.
All the best.
Namaste ... Laurie
Laurie Fulford, PMP
Harmony Hands Energy Healing,
Terrace , BC